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Sunday, July 5, 2020

How to Wear Athleisure for Summer

Casual & Comfy for Summer?

I think, yes! I am deciding to keep the cozy vibes all summer long. Since we have all been in quarantine for the first half of 2020, we are used to being in no-fuss outfits that keep us casual and comfortable. 

Even though restaurants and stores are opening back up, there is no reason to ditch your sports bra and sneakers if you don't want to. 

Athleisure combines comfort and practicality and now, it is acceptable to wear performance clothing to brunch and not just the gym or around the house.  

So how can you achieve a chic and functional look without looking frumpy? 

It's simple: Accessories, Layering, Fit and a fresh face are all you need to pull the look together. 

Start building your outfit with well fitting pieces as your base. If the gym wear you thrown on looks, well... thrown on, it will make your outfit look less tailored. Selecting pieces that compliment your body type is key in making this style work. 

Layer Up
Grab a short jacket to throw on over your outfit on a cool night. Tying the jacket around your waist can nice dimension to your look. 

Bold statement jewelry, an over-the-shoulder bag and shades are all you need to elevate your look. Wearing shades is always a simple method to add mystique to any outfit - adding to athletic wear is no different. 

Fresh Face
My preference for this look is to have a full face of make up! #extra I know. I like the juxtaposition that having a fully beat face and a causal outfit creates. But if you prefer the no make up look, that of course, works too. Just make sure you put on your sunscreen to protect your skin. 

Do's and Don't of Wearing Athleisure

  • Do mix fabrics, like denim and leather, with high-performance sports fabrics 
  • Don't wear clothing that has holes that aren't supposed to be there
  • Don't wear Athleisure to formal events or job interviews (duh)
  • Do mesh your performance wear with your own personal style 
  • Do use layering to add depth to your look 


Saturday, July 4, 2020

A Big Light in a Tiny Package


My new teacup poodle and the new love of my life. 

The time had finally come for me to add a little doggie into my life. After debating adoption or purchasing from a breeder, I opted to go to a store to meet the pups before committing to one that I found via googling. 

I took this route this because although I would have loved to adopt, there weren't many small breeds available (to fit in my tiny NYC apartment) and to also avoid getting scammed by purchasing a puppy that didn't really exist by a fake breeder! 

I made an appointment to visit a puppy store and was the only person in the store viewing the pups because of social distancing. It was my first day puppy searching since my landlord finally gave me the ok to get a pooch because I am not able to have a dog in my apartment. 

Penny is technically my Emotional Support Animal recommended by my psychologist, and so my landlord allowed me to bring in a doggie.

The pandemic, the current flare up of outrage due to racial injustices towards Black and African American people, and finding out my ex, whom I wanted to start a life with and who I wrote about in With Love and Hope  had a whole other relationship with another women for the entirely of our relationship. 

Yeah. That part. 

Queue "Take a Bow" by Rihanna. 

I'll spare you the grim details for now, but as you can imagine, I was a complete wreck and I am still in the process of recovering from the emotional and psychological blow. 

However, as soon as Penny came out of her crate and into my hands in the puppy store, I melted and it was a wrap. I visited a few other pet stores to look at other options but she already had my whole heart. 

At a whopping 1.5 pounds, she came home with me that day and has brought immense joy and happiness into my life ever since.

Her big brown puppy eyes and loyal mentality warm my spirit with each little tail wag.

I underestimated the magnitude of just how much an ESA would drastically lift my mood even despite my personal situation and our current social climate, but the transition into life with Penny has given me a renewed sense of vibrancy and happiness in my day-to-day. 

If you are going through a difficult time and are considering an ESA, just go for it. 

You have nothing to lose and you will gain a sweet and loyal companion. 


Wednesday, July 1, 2020

Releasing the Stigma of Therapy in the Black Community

When life gives you lemons, go to therapy. Forget the lemonade. 

In the Black community, going to therapy or expressing the need to go to therapy is often looked down upon because Black and African American people tend to be concerned about the stigma and judgement associated with mental illness. 

Let's unpack that.

Life has it's general challenges for everyone but with the troubled history of African American and Black people in the United States that has now trickled into a more contemporary version of racial oppression, going to therapy to cope seems like a no-brainer. 

However, from research and conversations with my peers, mental health and going to therapy is often viewed as something that is for "white people" or is brushed off as a waste of time or unimportant or is replaced with the idea that Religion will fix all problems. 

Mental illness can be viewed as someone having a weak mind, when I feel, it should be just the opposite. Understanding that to reach out to someone while you are stuck in a poor mental state is a sign of strength and maturity. Understanding that you don't have to stay in a place where your thoughts are working against you and not for you. 

Normalizing the idea that anyone, regardless of gender, race, or ethnicity can seek therapy if they feel speaking to someone about their internal issues can be helpful. (heyyy black and minority people, this comment is specifically for you).

I pulled together some data from NCBI for a snapshot of how therapy is perceived in Black and African American communities and also pulled together some resources on where to find a therapist. 

Since our current political and health climate are in shambles, most if not all resources are currently provided at reduced cost or no fee. 


Tuesday, May 19, 2020

Minimalistic Style Guide

Lately I have been loving the minimalistic style moment that the fashion world is having! 90's inspired crop tops, solid belts, spaghetti strap tops, mom jeans, and chunky gold jewelry? Sign me up!

Even though this is a trend and trends are fleeting, I decided to fully embrace this one because the items are basically, basics!

Even once this trend fades away into the fashion abyss, the pieces can still be worn as staples in your wardrobe since most are essentially timeless.

Putting a minimalist look together can easily look frumpy, sloppy, and boring.

Elevating your look with accessories is the key to really riding this wave and staying chic. Like any clothing item, the fit needs to be flattering to your body shape.

I also love this style because it is un-fussy fashion that looks put-together and effortless. And since most of the pieces are simple, they're mix-and-match-able for many different outfit options.

If you've been following me for a while, you know that I love a luxury item, honey! However, I also love to be frugal and find the look for less! I'll keep most of my suggestions budget friendly. You're welcome :)

Here is your minimalistic style guide.

Basic top + mom jeans + belt + sneakers or a mule + chunky gold jewelry = Chic, Simple Outfit

And that's it! I'm not great at math but I give myself and A+ for style. This formula is fool proof. Your clothing just needs to fit well. Below are some pieces to help plug into that formula! 


Friday, May 15, 2020

5 Cute Indoor Date Ideas for your Significant Other

I have a confession to make

I am a romantic and I love, love. "Sappy Rom-Com watcher" should be a skill on my resume! Just because we are staying to ourselves during this time, doesn't mean we should totally neglect the romance in our relationships. It just takes a bit of planning and maybe a run to the grocery store. Romance can certainly be grand with lots of expensive gifts and trips but it can also be subtle and sweet (and friendly for your wallet). I'm sharing five ways you can give your partner googly-eyes while staying inside. Read on for the love! 

Make a Fort!
You know, like when you were a kid? Grab some blankets and pillows then build an epic fort for the two of you to hang out in for an evening. You can cuddle up and watch a movie or just chit chat while gazing into each others eyesss. Once you both start to get hungry, the fort also doubles as the perfect place to have lunch or dinner. 

Learn a Dance Together (TikTok or a classical ballroom dance)
If you and your S.O. are into staying active together, why not learn a dance together? It can be a TikTok dance (*side-eye) or if you're not into social media trends, you could learn a classical ballroom dance. YouTube University can help you sway the night away, or just step on each other's toes and laugh about it.  

Make S'mores Together 
The next time you head to the grocery store, go ahead and abandon your Keto diet for a moment and live a little. Grab some graham crackers, big marshmallows, milk chocolate and skewers that can withstand heat. 

If you have a fireplace, light it up, get cozy and start roasting your marshmallows to gooey perfection so you can enjoy your tiny, sweet sandwiches. No fireplace? No problem. The stove works perfectly and eating your s'more standing up in the kitchen will be a cute experience for the both of you.

Dress up, Order Takeout and have an Indoor Dinner Date
You know what tastes good? Someone else's cooking! If you are in a place where you can order takeout, you should! Support locally run restaurants and order your favorite dish. You and your special someone can then get dressed, pick up your food, bring it home, set the table and enjoy your food while not in a big t-shirt in sweatpants. 

Light Candles and give your Sweetie a Massage 
Stress from the day to day hustle of this world we live in is exhausting. Light a few candles, dim the lights and give your S.O. a soothing massage to help them relax and unwind. Hopefully they will return the favor! 

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